Kids moving back home for the summer? Parents moving in for an extended stay?

Times are different for the generation suffering from the quarter age crisis. Today families are converging, whether it is to take care of a parent who needs a place to live or medical care, to young adults who realize life is not what they perceived once they crossed a high school or college graduation stage, or for financial reasons.

This Google Doc provides some basic parameters to document before the young adult child returns home for a temporary stay or if a parent, in law, or any other acquaintance moves in to your home for an extended stay. It is acceptable to set the ground rules, modify as agreed upon, and post them on a door in the home or on the net. Whether the cohabitants move is only for the summer break from school or for an extended stay, set the ground rules before those who are uber sensitive get their feelings hurt to the individual who thinks they are entitled to a place to stay without restitution.

It is also acceptable to have everyone come to the table with their top 10 rules and preferences, involve the digital devices, document the situation, and start a family blog. I am not the expert in this situation, but the 2010 census shows that 5.1 million households are considered multigenerational households sharing what we know, lessons learned, and what works in unique situations helps everyone involved.




Comments, recommendations, suggestions, and document ratings are always welcome.
Other external articles you may enjoy:
6 tips for living with boomerang kids by Steve Santiago @ Bankrate.com
Parenting Articles about Adult Children @ Empowering Parents
Adult Children Moving Home @ Frugal Dad

When an adult child returns home...

OK...you hear the stats...more adult children living at home or returning home after life changing events.  So while I was off in NC enjoying my empty nest status and working on my research for the dissertation phase of my doctoral program...events happened. I am thankful to the US Army that taught me to AIO - Adapt, Implement, and Overcome. 


Got it...I am one of many members of the sandwich generation who are responsible for taking in, caring for, supporting in one form or another a parent and an adult child...who has a child.


I know as I returned to Georgia my family was waiting on the hammer to drop...but I took it a step at a time...give it 30 days, assess and analyze the situation, provide some solutions, pray, and continue to move forward.


So one of the recommendations was to develop a family contract. Most people who know me know that I do not have a problem developing or enforcing a standard. So here is the ed techie portion of the blog...a Google Doc with a modifiable family contract.This may or may not be new to many parents and even adult children...but life is full of learning opportunities and teachable moments for all parties involved. If you have some recommendations, think I created an unreasonable document...leave a comment...after all it is the Internet and someone you know may have been or may be going through this type of situation. You can scroll through the embedded Google Doc below or go straight the Google Docs template, create a copy and modify for your situation.

As with the Google Doc, the disclaimer states the doc is not a legal document, just a documented family agreement. As with all posts, your comments, recommendations, or even checking one of the reaction boxes is appreciated.